Dungeon Etiquette

Dress code:  As a guide to new people... smart street clothes are normally worn to non play events such as social gatherings and Munches. Play events are usually your chance to "get wild" and have fun.... be outrageous! For women almost anything that you feel comfortable in is fine. Once at Xtreme Darque, you will find people wearing anything from a simple black blouse and skirt, tight leather outfits, latex and rubber, corsets, to panties and bras or nothing at all. First time men might wear black pants and a dark shirt but may find that some men will be in leather......maybe others in silk panties or drag, latex outfits, harnesses, or nothing at all. It won't take long to adapt your own style of dress and/or undress that fits the YOU you want to be.

RESPECT YOUR LEVEL OF PLAY and everyone else's: We are very non judgemental here. The whole idea of BDSM is to explore yourself and your partner/s. Each person has their own level of play and own fetishes and fantasies. There is no pressure on you to do anything. You may not be into pain for example as much as someone else. Do not feel pressured to do what others do. There is no right or wrong way to do BDSM as long as it is safe, sane, and consensual. So do it your way. For you, your way is the right way.... but remember that for somebody else their way is the right way for them. If you see something going on that you believe might be contrary to club rules and guidelines please quietly bring it to the attention of one of the Dungeon Masters/Mistresses and let them handle it.

DOM/MEs MASTER's MA'AM's submissives and slaves

Here at  Xtreme Darque, we believe that respect is earned and not assumed. A Dom/me, who is not your Dom/me is just another patron or guest. If you are a sub and they have earned your respect, you may, if you wish, address them as Sir or Ma'am if that is acceptable to both of you. Don't forget that if you are a sub and call someone Master or Mistress their sub may not be thrilled. They have earned that right the hard way. No-one may demand anything of another unless the other has so consented to the relationship. A submissive is under no obligation to serve or obey anyone they do not choose to serve or obey. "I may be a Dom but I am not everyone's Dom and you may be a sub or slave but you are not everyone's sub or slave."

RESPECT THE SCENE IN PROGRESS: In the dungeon the scene is a very intense and intimate time of focussed erotic energy. Do nothing that might distract or disrupt the scene! Do not invade the scene space. Refrain from talking loudly or worse laughing loudly in the Dungeon. Do not talk to those in a scene unless you are talked to first. Do not talk through a scene with somebody else. It is OK to watch a scene but learn the difference between watching and gawking. Watch from a distance. It is not at all polite to use someone else's scene for your overt sexual pleasures. Don't do it! At Xtreme Darque, BDSM is not normally a stage show, it is an intimate moment in someone's life. Respect that and feel honoured that they are sharing that intimate moment, in a small way with you.

NEVER: ask if you may join a scene or in some way try to invite yourself. If you are wanted you will be asked! Never touch anyone without permission.

DO NOT: touch other peoples toys without asking first. Most people in BDSM are kind, generous and friendly people...... don't put people on the spot by asking to borrow floggers, whips or other toys. Buy and bring your own. Using someone's favourite flogger might be akin to asking to borrow their toothbrush.

CLEANLINESS: always leave your play area as clean or cleaner than you found it. Do not be shy about using the provided disinfectant to clean your play area before you use it! YOU SHOULD. It is not making a statement about the people who were there before you.... but is making a statement about you and your understanding about playing safe and sane. It only takes a minute and may prevent any one of a whole host of problems that might arise from using unclean play areas. At Xtreme Darque we hope that it becomes standard practice to clean your area before and after you use it and to protect yourself at all times.

EMOTION: In BDSM egos and feelings are a very big part of what goes on. Be very careful of well meaning suggestions of how to do something better, especially in front of someone's sub. It is much better to just let someone observe your method of doing something. If they like it they may adapt it for themselves or they may ask you about it. Then you can tell them about your method.

VENUE: Xtreme Darque is a guest of The Purple Palace, Adelaides Premier Dungeon. Please respect it as would would expect a guest in your own home

NON POLITICAL

Please leave any scene politics at the door, including personal dislikes of other Patrons. The venue can Cater for everyone.  Manners are mandatory regardless of your BDSM persuasion. Rudeness is not acceptable at any time. Edge play, scarification, and cutting will be permitted but must first be discussed with a DungeonMaster/Mistress prior to play night and approved. Because of the potential dangers of using a singletail whip on your submissive and others playing in the area you must inform the Dungeon Mistress/Master of your intent to use it in play.

ANONYMITY

Although we hold basic information about patrons for safety reasons, Xtreme Darque will make every effort not to reveal any information about any Patron to any other person or group. All information will be held in strictest confidence. Xtreme Darque attendees are also expected to assist in maintaining everyone's anonymity. Ideally, who you see here, and what you see here, and what you hear here, stays here! Help make Xtreme Darquea safe comfortable place to socialise and play by protecting everyone's anonymity and privacy. As unfortunate as it is, BDSM is not accepted favourably by the public.

Entry

Xtreme Darque reserves the absolute right to determine who enters or who does not enter the premises. Patrons may be asked to leave or refused entry at the discretion of the management. Minors are strictly prohibited from the premises.